tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5785238503949165495.post540825350976474247..comments2023-10-14T07:53:27.701-04:00Comments on My Thought-filled Journey: Let It BeMTJhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13694085588658653915noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5785238503949165495.post-90204680373196726082011-05-19T04:57:05.689-04:002011-05-19T04:57:05.689-04:00Marriage is a deep and personal tie between two pe...Marriage is a deep and personal tie between two people committed to love each other throughout their lives. Marriage should lasts, should, but it takes hard work and mutual acceptance. God's word is clear on it. I've recently been pondering severing my relationship with my god-daughter, and our turbulent relationship gave me a little insight into a troubled marriage, that when one party is deeply hurt, whether real or perceived, it is very difficult to continue in it, having to face the person who causes you hurt day in and out. Wanting to get out of that relationship is not so much as to breaking faith with the party, but just avoiding getting hurt again, and living with so much pain. What causes the pain? Pride, selfishness, different expectations??? I have no answer to that. I thank God for a good spouse, I think I'm a lousy god-mother because I'm now wanting out...Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05651509769892366794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5785238503949165495.post-74112078342313841512011-05-17T23:20:31.292-04:002011-05-17T23:20:31.292-04:00Praying for you my brother in Christ. May the God...Praying for you my brother in Christ. May the God of Love touch you and your wife's hearts and make them whole again. God bless, LloydSolid Rock or Sinking Sandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04815501572621378327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5785238503949165495.post-10316813083977734352011-05-16T20:04:39.769-04:002011-05-16T20:04:39.769-04:00Hi MTJ, I've never been married but I have alw...Hi MTJ, I've never been married but I have always wonder what really causes so many marriages to fail. You shed some for insightful light on the subject. I join you in praying that marriages be restored.Wandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07438544740170524813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5785238503949165495.post-46879729976302116262011-05-15T20:08:45.071-04:002011-05-15T20:08:45.071-04:00I echo what Renee said....you're turning somet...I echo what Renee said....you're turning something that was painful into helping others. That's the best.Nikki (Sarah)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13731200601840020130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5785238503949165495.post-17952106999365038542011-05-15T18:39:20.243-04:002011-05-15T18:39:20.243-04:00Thank you for using your own hurts to help others....Thank you for using your own hurts to help others....Very helpful post. God bless you.Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07089685282700680525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5785238503949165495.post-50606908074350846722011-05-15T16:45:09.453-04:002011-05-15T16:45:09.453-04:00After church this morning a woman told me, "I...After church this morning a woman told me, "I just love to see the connection between you and your husband. It's been years since my husband showed me any affection." Broke my heart as I promised myself to pray for them each day. I've been married 36 years, but try never to take for granted the joy of our marriage. This was an important post for all of us to read and share.<br /><br />Blessings,<br />PamelaPamelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14577919062812348914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5785238503949165495.post-74402580151408516782011-05-14T21:01:56.335-04:002011-05-14T21:01:56.335-04:00We are starting a marriage study in our Bible Stud...We are starting a marriage study in our Bible Study in June, even though most of us have been married for more than 25 years. We still need to be reminded of God's picture of what marriage should be and model that for our children too.<br />Excellent post and your prayers always touch my heart.Anita Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06581280313136512145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5785238503949165495.post-78824108831178358612011-05-14T13:24:45.244-04:002011-05-14T13:24:45.244-04:00This is a very timely message. One everyone should...This is a very timely message. One everyone should read. I remember as a child asking my mother who she loved most - me or my Dad. She always said she loved us both the same but in different ways. This didn't really satisfy me as a child because I wanted her to say she loved me more. As an adult I came to understand that there really are different kinds of love. <br />I hope you have a beautiful weekend.<br />Blessings,<br />CharlotteCharlottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12533075034458645148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5785238503949165495.post-45361445191357836182011-05-13T23:13:38.255-04:002011-05-13T23:13:38.255-04:00I think that to many people give up to easily. I l...I think that to many people give up to easily. I love the saying~~ A couple that pray's together stays together.<br />Blessings,<br />GingerGinger~~Enchanting Cottagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15930442106195929472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5785238503949165495.post-54715545731060189512011-05-13T21:23:23.892-04:002011-05-13T21:23:23.892-04:00A very timely message. Thank you for your open vu...A very timely message. Thank you for your open vulnerability, and for being bold in proclaiming truth.<br /><br />Only through knowing and receiving and relying on God's love and forgiveness of us, can we in turn offer it to others.<br /><br />GOD BLESS!Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00840994989201507494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5785238503949165495.post-63921905746396950522011-05-13T20:02:07.634-04:002011-05-13T20:02:07.634-04:00MTJ: Your post is one that many need to hear. Ther...MTJ: Your post is one that many need to hear. There are so many divorces these days (and the courts make it so easy with no-fault divorce). As you said, there are many Christian couples who have chosen this path. In our own church home, we know of several couples who are contemplating or have gotten a divorce. <br /><br />Recently my husband and I went through a six-week small group study called Sacred Marriage (by author Gary Thomas). Although our marriage is strong, I would be foolish to think that something couldn't happen. Satan is out to destroy lives and will use any means possible, including tearing apart Christian families. <br /><br />There are no perfect people and no perfect marriages. For those who get out of one marriage and expect to go into another one with the "perfect" spouse...well it just doesn't work that way.<br /><br />Blessings,<br />JoanJoan Hallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16430939897829160498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5785238503949165495.post-69177826316053059222011-05-13T19:41:30.617-04:002011-05-13T19:41:30.617-04:00Patti: You're so right! Marriage is hard work...<b>Patti:</b> You're so right! Marriage is hard work, and many have succumbed to emotional, physical, and spiritual exhuastion from their efforts. I believe that marriage operates from the place of love, forgiveness, and grace; <i>we give love, forgiveness, and grace to our spouse.</i> These three elements fuel my passion for my spouse in a way that is inexhaustible. When I view marriage from a place of legalism, I will invariably grow tired from my efforts.<br /><br /><b>Carrie:</b> We live in a world where some want to shade it with the colors of <i>black and white</i>. I find it strange that we attempt this when God has in fact created a world with a vast array of colors.<br /><br />Like you, I'm opposed to divorce, but I live in a world where that view isn't the only one prized. Many in this country (<i>alone</i>), have chosen divorce over reconciliation; <i>and many Christians in America have chosen divorce.</i><br /><br />This post is not meant to condemn anyone for choosing divorce. As I said, "<b>marriage cannot save anyone from their sins, only Christ saves.</b>"<br /><br />I do not believe marriage creates problems, it identifies problems in my life that need to be resolved. I believe that God uses marital conflict to gain my attention; <i>enabling me to address problems in my life.</i> I do believe divorce creates problems in my life because it allows me to ignore basic issues which I refuse to surrender to God. Issues such as obedience, love, forgiveness, trust, and faith.<br /><br />I don't want anyone to feel as though I condemn them for the choice they made or will make regarding their marriage; <i>I will not do that.</i><br /><br />I merely suggest that we all consider the mind of Christ in whatever we choice we make regarding marital relationships.MTJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13694085588658653915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5785238503949165495.post-6495665345233222742011-05-13T19:02:30.730-04:002011-05-13T19:02:30.730-04:00The Bible says that God hates divorce, and so then...The Bible says that God hates divorce, and so then, we should hate it too. Divorce seems like the easy way out, but it actually produces more mess, more confusion, more mean words, more stress, more financial difficulty than reconciliation. Satan has the world bound with believing otherwise. And don't even get me started on the silent victims of its path: the children. I hate divorce!!Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17197431919054936309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5785238503949165495.post-26830624154764266822011-05-13T16:54:13.234-04:002011-05-13T16:54:13.234-04:00Thank you for encouraging people to not give up on...Thank you for encouraging people to not give up on their marriages. Divorce has become so easy. Marriage is hard work because we are all imperfect people, but God is there to help if we turn to him. A three fold cord is not easily broken.Patti Hananhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04275696717600565061noreply@blogger.com